And like peeing on a stick, there is the crushing blow that follows. The day each month when you realize that, no, it's not happening for you again. Perhaps the next board meeting. Perhaps another month. It can only be just one more month, right?
The feeling is the same, except now it is more intensified. You have seen her face. You have seen her grow from one photo to the next (taken months and months apart). That is, if you are lucky enough to get an update at all. You know she is growing up while you are not there. You are missing her life. SHE is missing her life. You both are missing the love and the laughter and hugs and kisses and tickles. She turned 22 months yesterday...without us. Not being there for her first birthday was so sad. Will we miss her 2nd also? I'm starting to wonder. Where is that positive attitude I held on to so tightly? Of course, I know we will get her soon and make up for as much lost time as we can. But just like someone telling you to be patient and that it will happen at the right time...that just isn't always comforting.
On an up note, I am so grateful for the friends I have met on this journey. You all continue to lift me up and give support when I need it most. Whether it's a kind word on the comments page or a personal email or phone call, it means so much. Thank you. We also deeply appreciate the parents that have gone over to Thailand and sent us pictures of our baby. It means more than you could ever imagine. We intend to do the same for other families, so if anyone knows someone adopting from Nakhon Si Thammarat, feel free to pass on my email. We will do our best to get photos and info for them while there.
In the meantime, I am going to go pull myself up, dust myself off, and start the roller coaster all over again. Going up anyone?
6 comments:
Oh Jen. Hang in there! This winter weather seems to be bringing out the "worst of the waits" in all of us. We need spring! Here's to renewed hope. Waiting with you, my friend, waiting with you.
Oh Jen, I'm just hurting with you guys right now. Your phone call will come soon and I can't wait to hear your big announcement!
Wow...this is a great post. Sad. Sucky. But great how you put words to what so many of us go through. "She is missing her own life." I love that.
Ugh. I don't want to say hang in there, blah blah. I know you've heard it before...I know it doesn't help much. I wish you lived nearby and we could get together and really chat.
I'll pray for you. That things go faster. That your poor heart can hold on. For your baby girl too.
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Thanks, girls! Your support and prayers DO help! Sorry to be such a drag today! Tomorrow is another day...
Oh, Jen!! You summed it up so well! (*tears*) It's SO hard!! Oh, I so want you to be there in time for her second birthday! You are CLOSER than ever!!! Hang in there!!
Sending Hugs!!
ellie
I'm with you friend. I'm right here...in the deep south...but right here. Stay strong. Keep the faith. And thanks for the emails yesterday.
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